Closing shop: the exit interview.

:: NOTE:  I can think of exactly four people who will and should care about ALL of the following words.  Four.  That’s it.  If you read through and you find you don’t care, it’s because you’re not one of those four and this blog probably isn’t for you.  It’s my longest and wordiest, so feel free to skip. ::

Peace.  Whaidodeh, bebe?

Umm, what’s this about?

Can’t you read?  I’m closing shop.

Yes.  I can see that.  But why?

Don’t act surprised.  It’s not like I’ve been consistent with this blog thing for awhile.  I could blame it on the summer, but there’s more to it than that.  We can discuss it if you like.

Really?  Seems rather braggadocios of you, making a grand announcement like this.

You’re probably right.  But if I’m going to stop posting, I definitely owe four people an explanation as to why.  It’s not like I’m posting the link on twitter or anything.

This is just so random.  On Tuesday you hinted you might write something about music…

I changed my mind.  Clearly.  Look, we’re wasting time.  You got questions or not?

Right and wrong vs. is and is not.

If you were to ever spend more than a few hours with me and our conversation ventured into some “deep”, controversial, opinionated direction, I’m sure you would probably hear me use the words “objective” and “subjective” at least 4 or 5 times each.  Simply, the former attempts to remove personal bias from an argument and focuses more on the facts and varying perspectives.  The latter is pretty much the opposite, where the personal bias and the personal perspective are the focus of the argument.  The reason you’d hear me repeat these words over and over again is because I occasionally get into these bouts where I’m more hell bent on getting folks to see an alternative perspective than I am about getting my own point across (except when it comes to music, where I’m kind of a dïck*).  But more so than that, I’ve found that conscientiously considering both what is objective and subjective is helpful not just in debate (I know, I know…Captain Obvious over here), but in everyday living as well.

To explain the above riddle in terms of the title, focusing on “right and wrong” is to be subjective, whereas understanding “is and is not” is to be objective.  Basically, how you feel about something is often inconsequential to the actuality of the situation.  Now, this wouldn’t be a blog worth writing if I didn’t think that the majority of folks I come across tend to dwell more on the “right and wrong” of a situation than the “is and is not”, but that’s not to say they’re never objective.  I just think that we’re subjective more than is necessary, and I’m willing to provide some examples for when this type of thinking might matter.

Excuse me, sir, but are you done with your plate?

No, I’m taking a break from it.  I appreciate you asking, though.  Can’t tell you how many times I’ve had the server just snatch a half eaten, inactive plate from my space without asking.

Side Orders: Death to skinny jeans.



Peace.  Although I’m not feeling too peaceful right now.  I had to do some shopping yesterday and it took me over an hour, which is about an hour longer than I’d prefer to spend shopping.  What was I buying?  A new a pair of jeans.  What was wrong with the old ones?  Ultimately, they were too long (and a bit large at the waste), so the bottoms would touch the ground and ultimately get scuffed.  So much to the point where I was forced to buy a new pair of jeans.  But this is the problem.  The old jeans themselves were not that old.  I only wore them out because they didn’t fit properly.

So then why did you buy them in the first place?

Because they were the only jeans in the store that fit me.

Two for Tuesday: Dating multiple guys.

Peace.  It’s been more than a month since my last Two for Tuesday.  What gives?  Summer, man.  Summer.  It’s always interesting in DC.  Hopefully with the fall soon coming, I can be more consistent with this section and with my blog in general.  Hopefully.  To get back into the swing of things, I’ve got two questions (again from women) on dating multiple guys.

“Can a woman adequately date (not necessarily engage in sex) with more than one man at a time?  Is it advisable or taboo?”

I’m a big fan of dating more than one person at the same time, and I actually recommend this to women.  The issue I usually hear from women that can’t do this, is that they can only focus their attention on one interest at a time.  I get that, but it’s also important to understand your level of interest.  Naturally, whoever you like the most, you’re going to see the most.  But that doesn’t mean you can’t entertain other options every now and then, especially if you’re not committed to any one individual.